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shared suffering
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support for people living with suicide
"i've never spoken so openly about suicide. i didn't know this existed.
it's an incredible relief."
-frequently heard from people living w suicide during their first alternatives to suicide call
because of what's done to people living with suicide, we've had to find alternatives.
suicide is more than a 5-10 minute crisis to survive. it’s an experience of suffering unique to each individual living with it.
suicide is a consciousness i gained after touching death during domestic abuse. for me, suicide doesn't go away; it fluctuates in intensity.
there is no “cure,” “fix,” or “treatment plan” to eliminate suicide.
talking about suicide does not cause suicide.
suicide prevention is not done by others to a person struggling with suicide.
confiscating sharps, strings, and cords is not suicide prevention.
locking up guns and people is not suicide prevention.
clinicians and pharmacists do not dispense suicide prevention.
eliminating symptoms is not suicide prevention.
suicide prevention isn't bought or sold.
suicide prevention is the sole responsibility of the person living with suicide.
suicide prevention is a perpetual practice done with discipline for as many moments as the person living with suicide is alive.
suicide prevention doesn't happen in crisis.
it requires consistency, flexibility, and support.
suicide prevention doesn't get ready; it stays ready.
is there a solution?
resources for people living with suicide:
click here for resources including alternatives to suicide meetings
click here for information on talking about suicide
click here for my emergency plan framework
click here for tools i use to live w suicide and a precarious nervous system
click here to SUBMIT additional support resources
click here to REQUEST additional support resources
in support of people living w suicide, please consider offering support to the independent organizations listed. more info is included on each website.
*antidote is centered in consent and harm reduction and does not support calling 911 for someone living with suicide bc of the harm i've suffered at the hands of law enforcement/911, involuntary psychiatric hospitalization, clinical care, and to my permanent public record. please understand next steps specific to geography if emergency services are contacted on behalf of someone living w suicide.
988 is connected to 911 geolocation through georouting.
living with suicide:
suicide is rooted in abuse, nutrition, housing, education, employment, discrimination, loss, disability, grief, and suffering.
across the spectrum of mental health needs (crisis to maintenance), communities of people with shared mutual experience can provide profound, flexible, specific, and consistent support and healing in reflection of shared suffering.
alternatives to suicide calls are centered in consent and harm reduction, free of risk assessment, crisis services, or elevated "care," and held exclusively for those of us who live with suicide. you don’t have to explain anything or want things to change to be in these spaces.
while a seemingly simple solution, alternatives to suicide calls are anchored in profound depth and complexity, consent, and harm reduction.
there’s healing in reflection of shared suffering and support in community.
health is rooted in community. healing requires suffering; it hurts.
i did not choose to live w suicide.
i do choose between suicide and any other alternative.
i will not choose to live in harm through “care,” a “cure,” or being “fixed.”
i find health and support for living with suicide in the communities below.
there are alternatives to suicide calls every day. there is no cost or pre-registration required for participants. accommodations to meet accessibility needs are available.
community can provide support beyond healing that includes validation, resonance, understanding, help with accessing systems, services and resources, and opportunities for housing, employment, and education.
matthew 11:
28 “come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.